Feromoon Lesbian United Safe Haven
Sunday, 07 September 2008 10:07
So greetings from Down Under,
Today I want to chat with you about an odd topic, something I like to call the "lesbian circle of attraction effect". This is when a lesbian finally comes out and cements their identity and welcomes other lesbians into her life. What does this mean in laymen's terms? Essentially, being in the closet can be a terrifying experience, almost as terrifying as being out of the closet!! But the slow realisation of who a person is at heart and the sudden awareness that this person needs to ultimately acknowledge this in front of others can be a confronting fact to live with. You tend to spend hours, days, years even, thinking about all of the possible scenarios which may occur as a result of coming out and usually, the eternal pessimist in us, presents those really ugly outcomes for us to sit with more often then not. And so, ultimately we are left with worry, anxiety and self esteem which is shot to bits. This can send many lesbians into a downward spiral and put them into a negative headspace. Often, being in the closet will entail being without any homosexual, bixsexual, transexual or othersexual support.
